How to stir the attraction
Every guy asks himself what should he do when he likes a girl? So he starts looking for advice on how to win her attention. The guy already has a huge disadvantage no matter what advice is provided. That is so because much of the art of seduction is control. A woman is fascinated by a man who is capable to control him and others, including her. Between the guy and the girl appears a kind of war as each one is testing the other part trying to gain the upper hand of control. If the girl ultimately wins the battle, she'll put the guy in the ‘friend’ category and won’t consider him a potential partner anymore. The reason is pretty obvious. She thinks that if he can't control her than it means that he won't be strong enough to protect her. And protection is the most important issue that attracts and fascinates a woman. All the qualities that women are looking for, such as confidence and leadership, are just signs of the man's capacity to protect them. The truth is that finally all comes down to protection. No matter how much they deny it or how much they try, no woman can change this fact. That is why a man who doesn’t have control is disadvantaged. From this point he has already lost charge of the interaction. She will use his emotional attachment, as a strong weapon, to acquire control over him. Whenever she has a request and he'll do his best to fulfill her wish, he just wants to impress and please her, but he doesn’t realize that by this he is giving her control and he is reducing his chances of seducing her. And the natural question is that if she can have his emotions so quickly and easily, than how can he resist to other women? If she chooses him, then she risks losing his protection to another woman who may be more attractive. For this reason she will never consider him a strong potential partner. In fact the emotional feelings of desire are a proof of weakness in the first stages of seduction. So don’t show a girl how attracted you are to her. Actually, you should manifest a level of attraction that is a little bit less than that shown by the girl. In this way you will make her think that she has a slightly larger emotional implication in the relationship. Early demonstrations of attraction are considered to be a sign of weakness that will usually disappoint her. She may believe that because if she can win you over easily the same could happen with others. All the time show a degree of attraction that is slightly less than that displayed by the woman whom you are dating. She will remain in the game and even take the command as long as she believes that she has more invested than you. In conclusion, remember not to start the seduction with a higher emotional investment because your chances of winning will be very small. Your emotional attachment will became a dangerous arm against you in the dispute for control.
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